Thanks for not trying to make me feel like an idiot.
It was a little nerve-wracking putting it out there last week.
I wrote much more in depth about my 2014 train wreck experience in my book, but let’s be honest, more people read my last blog post than my last book.
And I’m not trying to mope about it, it’s just the truth.
I remember right after my mom finished proof-reading my first draft of my book — From Struggle Comes Strength.
She asked, “Are you ready to put this out into the world?”
I said, “Yes.” But I just also remember thinking to myself, no one cares about all of this stuff as much I do.
Because here’s the reality of our problems:
No other person will care about your problems as much as you do.
It may suck to hear that, but I think it’s true.
Here’s my reasoning…
Many of us are so consumed with what others may think.
We’re scared of how someone may judge us.
We get caught up in all of the, “What will they think if…” mentality.
And I’m sorry if I’m the first one to tell you this, but everyone is too concerned with their own problems, and their own challenges in life to really take the time to stop and judge you harshly on your own problems.
Sure, you’ll always have naysayers and energy-vampires who suck the life out of the room (or from you).
On the other hand, guess what happens right after most people hear about your problems?
They go right back to thinking about their own challenges and issues in their lives.
I’m not saying people don’t care, or won’t help.
The world is full of amazing, inspiring, & passionate people who genuinely will do whatever it takes to help you succeed.
If you ask for help, you’d be surprised by how often you’ll receive it.
Here’s what I’m trying to say:
Share more about your BIG problems.
Your life-lessons learned.
About the times you endured.
I didn’t write about my challenges so I could get sympathy.
It’s not about getting attention or even for support.
My intentions were to share my problems with others so that it could help even just one person not go through what I went through.
I love the quote, “You must learn from the mistakes of others. You can’t possibly live long enough to make them all yourself.”
So my words of encouragement to you are this,
Share your pains.
Share your struggles.
Share the challenges you have faced & overcome.
Not with the intention of boasting or being prideful.
Or even for receiving affirmations from others.
Because if that’s where your head is at, I don’t think you’re ready to share what you’ve gone through.
Put simply, share to help another human being be better.
Even if it helps just one other person.